The Art of Asking

by Michael Corthell

Sometimes we need to ask for something. Sometimes we do not. Knowing the difference is all important.

How do we ask for what we want and get it? There seems to be a kind of art behind getting what we want — some people seem to have a magic wand. They seem to always get what they want. Are they magicians?  What's going on? What are they doing that other people aren't? How do they ask for what they want and seem to succeed every time?

''If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.''
— James 1:5

The art of asking:

Know exactly what it is you want. This obvious question is often overlooked. Take the time to learn, figure out, or discover what you want. Once you know what you want it’s much easier to ask for it.

Make sure, ask yourself why? If you don’t want it at the heart of your being, ask yourself why you’re asking. If you do want it, ask yourself what you’d be willing to do for it.

Don't be coy or oblique. You have to actually ASK for what you want. Be direct. No hemming or hawing.

Be specific about what you want. Make it absolutely clear what it is you’re asking for.

Find out who can help you, know who to ask. Be selective. The more specific you can be the better.

There is an art to asking for something, whether it be a raise or help in doing something.

“In both the art and the business worlds, the difference between the amateurs and the professionals is simple: The professionals know they’re winging it. The amateurs pretend they’re not.”
Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking; or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help

I have to ask one question from you. Do you want it or NEED it? Knowing the difference is all important.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”
—Steve Jobs

Just remember that no one needs permission to be successful. Don't ask, just know that you can take opportunity and run with it.

The Art of Asking