On Life's Terms: Finding Peace Through Acceptance

by Michael Corthell

Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day. Start with that realization and build on it.

How do we accept what happens in life? Is life just a random series of events? If it is not, who controls and guides these events? God, the first cause of all events is in charge of course.

If you are a person of Faith, you may have prayed this serenity prayer or a version of it:

''God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.''

Find solutions instead of complaining. It is complete foolishness to complain about things all the time. Negative people drain everyone around them, and complaining won't change your situation for the better. Some feel that it helps, but it does not. It only sets up a negative mindset. Don't waste your time and energy complaining. Use wisdom and understanding by being proactive and positive minded.

Practice letting it go. How can you accept loss or change? Let's say it's a life changing and devastating loss. For example, you lose both your legs in an accident. You then need to make a choice. You don't accept what happened and fall into a deep depression, and do nothing but stew in your own juice Or accept what has happened to you and move on, and be best you can be without legs. You take lemons and make the best damn lemonade that you can make. It's as simple a making a choice. Let it go or let the resentment, bitterness and self-pity grow and destroy you.

Let the sun and the beauty shine in. When you're focused on everything negative and what is lacking, it's difficult to notice and appreciate the beautiful abundance of life in our world. Beaches and mountains, all the life in the ocean, birds in the sky, not to mention the diversity and culture that is around us. How about sweet blueberry ice cream, kissing at sunset, and lifelong friendships. There is a lot to appreciate and live for. Our world is a paradise. To fully enjoy your world, be positive in your thinking and accept what you cannot control. And then take action to change the things you can control.

Finally, practice less judgement, as to why something happens to you. You need only to believe and have Faith that everything happens for a reason and that better things will come from it. That will be the beginning true acceptance for you.


The Road to Acceptance

by Eric Yarger

In this talk, former US Marine Eric Yarger gives us some insights into how he came to go to war, how it changed him, and how he found his road to acceptance.