How To Be A Good Husband?

Husband: a married man considered in relation to his spouse.

by Mike Corthell

It's time to get personal. Why is that? Because your author recently married the most wonderful woman in the world. Therefor, it is my goal to be the most wonderful husband in the world to my dear wife.

As we retired last evening I asked my wife, ''What should I write about tomorrow?'' she said, ''Write about being a good husband, use the vows from our wedding.'' So being a good and faithful husband, I will do so!

''Let the wife make the husband glad to come home,
and let him make her sorry to see him leave.''

Martin Luther

The answer to the question, ''How to be a good husband?'' is very simple and very easy, believe it or not. If you want to be a good husband you will be one. It's just that simple. The real question here is, 'what is a good husband'. What is the definition?

Since I said, from the outset of this article that it is time to get personal, I have to define what a good husband is from my own world-view which is Christian.

I will do this by sharing my wedding vows, the ones I spoke to my wonderful bride, just one week ago. I wrote my vows with the intent of describing what a good husband is. First and foremost a husband loves his wife. My definition, is God's definition of LOVE, which comes from 1 Corinthians 13.

Thank you dear reader for sharing one of the best, best days of my life, my marriage to my dearest, sweet wife. Here are my vows, as spoken October 24, 2016, on the porch of a historic farm house named 'Narrimissic', which means incidentally, 'hard to find'...   

My Dearest Caroline, 

This is my promise and my vow to you. First as your husband, I am your brother in Christ. I am also your best friend, your helpmate and your lover. I know that a husband is patient and a husband is kind. Further more…

· He does not envy. 

· He does not boast. 

· He is not prideful.

· He does not dishonor others.

· He is not self-seeking. 

· He is not easily angered.

· He keeps no record of wrongs.

· He does not delight in evil.

· He rejoices with the truth.

· He always protects.

· He always trusts.

· He always hopes.

· He always perseveres.

I have been a husband before not fully knowing what is was to be a husband or a complete, mature man. 

I now know what it is to be a good man and a good husband - to love a woman fully, completely and wonderfully the way God loves us all. 

I love you my dearest Caroline, my sister, my spouse - with all my heart, soul and spirit. You are my life Caroline, please be with me forever, please be my wife. 

I, Michael Corthell, take you Caroline Grimm to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish you and our marriage. I will love you today, tomorrow, and forever. I now give you this ring as a symbol of my promise.

And so it was, Michael met Caroline. It took three years to create and build our union. Very slowly and platonically at first but then it finished at blinding speed with God's own, perfect timing.

May God Bless you all with the same happiness and joy we have found!