Forgive? Why??

by Mike Corthell

''When you practice forgiveness,
you contribute to the healing of the World.''

Forgiveness is a purposeful and voluntary process by which a wronged person transforms their feelings and attitudes regarding an offense by letting go of negative emotions such as hate and vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.

But why forgive?

Why do some of us find it so hard to say, ''I forgive you.'' I think that one reason we resist forgiving is that we don't really understand what forgiveness is or how it works. We may think we do, but we don't.

Some may assume that if they forgive their offenders, they let them 'get away' with something and get to go about their lives while we continue to suffer from their offense. They also might wrongly think that they have to be friendly with them once more.

God tells us to forgive others, but he never told us to keep trusting the person who hurt us.

The first step to understanding the why of forgiveness is learning what it is. The next step is learning how to forget, let it go, forgive and move on, but all the while remembering your right not to be hurt again as well as your responsibility not to let it happen again.

What benefit is it to you if you forgive? Here is the why: It is healthy for us to forgive, we love ourselves when we forgive. When we love our enemies, it is the right thing to do. And you will never regret doing the right thing.

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”

- Buddha

When you practice forgiveness you contribute to the healing of the World. Forgiveness is returning to God the right to take care of justice. Practice love. In the end, that is all there is.